Let’s face it, many of you have probably already broke your new years resolutions and it’s only 4 days into 2008. If you are fat, you’ll probably stay fat. If you don’t have very much money, it’s a pretty safe bet that you’ll be broke in 2009 as well.
I don’t say this to be mean, but to be really honest. Deep rooted patterns are not broken because all of the sudden a new year has dawned on us. Sure, it would be nice if it worked, but it seldom does.
The truth is, you need a real reason “WHY” to break a bad habit. Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to make more money?
And that reason why needs to have massive meaning. Right now, most people are fat or broke because it’s not a priority to be healthy or rich. They may say or think they want these things, but deep down they settle for something that is diametrically opposite of what comes out of their mouths.
Unless you have SEVERE PAIN associated with a certain action, it’s doubtful you’ll ever quit. I’m talking about pain so immense that you feel utterly disgusted with yourself and your actions. You literally need to HATE your problem to actually do something about it.
So do you HATE your fat or your lack of funds in the bank account?
I use these 2 examples because they are 2 of the most common things people want to change. So again I ask… “Do you hate your fat? Do you hate being broke?”
And I’m not talking about just saying you hate it or dislike it. I’m referring to associating so much negative pain to these problems that you passionately say… NEVER AGAIN! You need to despise these bad habits like Satan or murder, because if you don’t they’ll probably never change.
Real change only comes when people are truly fed up. A slim attractive body doesn’t come just because it’s new years. And money doesn’t fall from the sky just because your new resolution is to actually work on your business.
There is a moment in the consciousness when true change happens and for many people it can happen in a instant. But, in order for that to happen you have to be thoroughly fed up and disgusted with the behavior that you have been perpetuating for so long.
Do you HATE that bad habit? Do you truly despise it? Does it make you sick to your stomach and want to vomit just thinking of it?
When you feel that way, true change is very possible.
But unless you truly recognize how much you detest something, you’ll likely stay in the same pattern all year and throughout the decade. Patterns are not hard to break when you have the right tools. But considering most people have anchored these patterns so deep, they have no clue how to really change.
I’ve been fortunate to be buried into the world of hypnosis and self development for quite some time. During the last 10 years I’ve seen people make real change in their lives in a instant. It didn’t take tons of hard work or intense labor. It didn’t require massive energy or depriving themselves of anything.
What it did take was a huge shift in someones criteria and what they are willing to put up with. You simply must demand more for yourself and know that you deserve the absolute best. And if you don’t give yourself permission to have the best, no one can ever help you attain it. But most people just settle for mediocrity. It’s seldom that someone demands the best for themselves.
And until you do demand the best, things will always stay the same.
There’s a huge difference between wishing for the best and demanding it too. Wishing ain’t going to get you jack shit. Wishing is for people playing the lottery. Doing is for people who really want to make significant change.
During Anthony Robbins “Unleash The Power Within” program he takes you through a transformation called “The Dickens Process”. The goal is to rid yourself of some negative belief. And once you are done with this process, life will never be the same. But, you have to associate tons of negative energy and bad memories to this belief so you’ll say… “NEVER AGAIN”.
And once you can do that, you are ready to replace it with something beautiful.
You know without a shadow of a doubt that you’ll never subject yourself to the same pain and misery again because the alternative is so much more rewarding. But unless you see that horrendous pain associated with your actions, it’s hard to make any significant and lasting change.
There is a lot to learn from pain and misery. It can propel you to new heights if you use it correctly and make new demands of yourself.
But simple new years resolutions are bound to be broken and make you feel like more shit. And it’s easy to see why. People are not truly trying to change. They are hoping some magic being from the sky is going to come down and make everything all right. Good luck with that one.
It’s up to you. You control your destiny. And if you truly want real change in 2008 then it’s all yours just waiting for you to step up to the plate and swing for the fences.
Remember, there is no trying in this game. You either do, or you don’t. It’s that simple.
So get pissed off, get enraged about what you want to change and say… “NEVER AGAIN”.
And after you do that, watch this nice little message from the Robbins organization…
http://www.tonyrobbins.com/12TENETS/index.html?=136092
Take care and grasp ahold of the new year.
Your pal,
Jason
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