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I’ve always considered myself somewhat of a pacifist. Blood, guts and war makes my stomach cringe and I’ve always felt there has to be a better way to resolve conflicts than killing our fellow brothers and sister on the planet.

However, my beliefs were always a bit extreme and it wasn’t until I attended a Tony Robbins “Unleash The Power Within” seminar that I was able to use his Dickens Process to release my extremist views. I learned how to support and encourage those in uniform to better protect and serve us as individuals and Americans instead of just despising all military action. My rigid beliefs weren’t rooted in reality and didn’t take into account real world situations that are sadly inevitable in our current times.

After going through this Dickens Process I was able to still oppose war and violence, but still offer my support and understanding in times of conflict that would serve soldiers and the idea of peace on earth.

During that seminar I met a really cool guy by the name of Jeff Paro. He sent a email out today and I replied to him telling him I’d like to post it on the blog…

Jeff was a sales associate/motivational speaker at the event and was chock full of charisma and enthusiasm. I took an instant liking to him. Since then we’ve keep in touch via email, Skype, phone etc and I consider him a good guy and a friend.

I wanted to post the email he wrote because it was very inspirational and moved me.

I thought it may do the same for you, so I felt it was worth a repost here on the blog.

Jeff has proven himself as a effective communicator, excellent marketer and someone who cares about making the world a better place for all of us who walk the globe. I’ve always enjoyed reading his emails and bantering with him about product ideas to enhance people’s lives.

So, without further ado… here is the email he sent out today…

“I like to see what I am made of, see exactly if there is a limit to the human soul.”

These words by super human navy seal David Goggins, who’s daily routine is :

*Wake up at 3am, run 10-15 miles.
*Bike 25 miles to work.
*At lunchtime run 5-8 miles.
*After work ride home 25 miles.
*Do weight training (with wife)
*Sometimes after arriving home do a 3-5 mile run.

I know exactly what some of you are thinking… “Wow that is amazing, HE is amazing, there is no way I could ever do that…” David wasn’t always this way.

At one point in time he was 280 pounds and had never ran more than 20 minutes. After several failed attempts at a professional football career, David decided he wanted to become a navy seal.

The recruiter warned him that his weight would probably prevent him from finishing “Hell Week” and realizing his dream of becoming a navy seal.

Finish he did.

He also completed the U.S. Army Ranger school.

He also completed the Air Force tactical air controller training, making him the only member of the U.S. Armed Forces’ history to complete all 3.

Which brings me to today’s lesson.

Today I want to share with you 3 ways we limit ourselves: What’s possible.

For years many people said it is impossible to fly. Then they doubted it was possible to send a man to the moon. At one point they thought is was impossible to run 1 mile under 4 mins. All of these things that were thought to be ‘impossible’ have been proven wrong.

How do you prove them wrong? By doing it.

Can you prove that something is NOT possible? NOPE.

It’s impossible to prove a negative.(ouch my brain hurts thinking about that)

Try that one on again. What I’m capable of.

In David Goggins’ case, I know many of you are thinking…”good for him, but there is no way i could do that.”

And the truth is YOU ARE CAPABLE. There are examples of people with physical limitations, accomplishing similar feats.

With the right beliefs and dedication, I am certain that everybody reading this could accomplish at least ONE of his feats.

What I deserve.

This is one that many people find hard to believe. They don’t think it is possible that they would actually sabotage their own success.

The way that I teach this concept is like this. Imagine that you and your friend were supposed to hop on a plane headed to NY. You later change your ticket for a later flight. Your friend’s plane crashes.

How do you feel, besides sad?

Wouldn’t you agree that you would start to feel guilty? Not worthy?

Wouldn’t you probably start to ask yourself: “Why did I get to live and NOT him?”

It’s hard to imagine that you were more deserving of life than them.

In life, many people believe that success is a zero sum game. Which means in order for me to be successful others have to fail. They believe that ‘success’ is reserved for the select few. Unconsciously, they believe “if only a few people can be successful, then why should I be one of them?

I don’t deserve it more than the next guy/girl”

Can you begin to see how limiting yourself in any of these ways might stop you from getting what you say you want? Use David’s story to remind you of what IS possible, that you ARE capable of creating the life and business you want and YOU DESERVE IT!

After looking at David’s schedule and commitment level, I don’t think setting my alarm an extra 45 minutes early, is such a commitment.

Go out there and make it happen!!

I believe in you,

Jeff Paro

Jeff Paro is a marketing strategist, Influenceologist and the creator of Influenceology and a Not So Famous DJ. His site can be found at http://jeffparo.com/ along with his social media profiles. Give him a peek.

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This may seem kind of weird to most people, but I’ve never been a big fan of holidays. Before you call me a Scrooge or a Jehovah’s Witness, please hear me out.

The reason why holidays never resonated with me is because it always seemed odd that it took a certain day of celebration to be in the “holiday spirit”. Why can’t we always be in the holiday spirit? Why do we need to set aside a specific day to be jolly or express our gratitude for things in our life? Can’t we be merry and joyous about life on just any average Tuesday? In my experience, the feelings associated with holidays always seems a bit forced and not always entirely genuine.

However, I don’t want to deny anyone a reason to have jubilant celebration so forget about my silly beliefs on holidays. As I’ve grown older I’ve begun to appreciate them much more. But it hasn’t always been that way.

Anyhow, Thanksgiving is a day for us to express our gratitude and thanks for the things we have in our life. There is no doubt that I’m beyond blessed for the life I live. Even though I’ve given away just about everything I own in the last couple months, I feel like I have more than I’ll ever need in this life.

But it doesn’t take a day like Thanksgiving for me to reflect on what I’m grateful for. Laying next to my bed is a “Gratitude Journal” and when I awake most mornings, I jot down the very first thing that comes to mind that makes me grateful. Sometimes it’s as simple as a walk I had with my dog, other times it’s gratitude for my health or appreciation for those in my life.

Today I’m grateful for not only the grand experiences I’ve had of late, but also the absolutely horrific ones. I’ve literally had the best few months in my life, coupled with the worst of the worst. And believe it or not, I’m actually grateful and thankful for that.

The ups and downs have molded me in a way that I’m so appreciative of. Sure, the downs hurt. They hurt a lot. I’ve never shed so many tears, had such heartache and felt so helpless in a variety of personal situations as of late. Many times it seems like I’ve totally lost my way and have reverted 15 years growth in the wrong direction.

The truth is, these experiences have forced me to grow within. Forced me to ask serious questions about myself and my life. And have forced me to step up in a way that I’d normally shun.

So while I’m grateful for all the great things and people in my life, I’m also very appreciative of all the challenges and hurdles set in front of me that make me a stronger man day by day.

I hope you have a splendid Thanksgiving with loved ones and get to stuff your belly with some serious fixins! And don’t forget, you can always express gratitude and joy on any given day. You don’t need a turkey and cranberry sauce on the table as a indicator that today is a perfect day to be appreciative.

Peace

Jason

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On Saturday night we raged like kids in a candy store during the annual Karma Foundation party Kandyland at the Playboy Mansion. The Karma Foundation is a private organization offering its members a mix of networking, philanthropy, revelry and ultimate access! Proceeds from Kandyland party were set aside to benefit Operation USA.

If you ever get invited to attend a party at the Playboy Mansion you may want to take heed of these 7 tips that will help you get the most out of your experience. Trust me, I know what I’m talking about. Pay attention!

Just about anyone can go to the mansion if you’re willing to drop a few bucks. Quite frequently they have charity events, and for about $1000 you can score yourself a ticket to party on the grounds. If you’re an extra hot and fun chick you might be able to weasel your way in for free.

Playboy Mansion Tip #1. Don’t Be The Drinking Rookie.

Very Drunk Girl At Kandyland Party At Playboy Mansion

Listen up, you’re going to have an amazing time. In fact, chances are you’ll have such an amazing time you’ll be wasted and puking in the bushes if you don’t take a few precautions.

First of all, don’t start drinking a bunch of booze on a empty stomach. This isn’t rocket science, and I know you’re not an idiot. So eat something. Fill up your belly because easily accessible liquor and hot girls everywhere can quickly cloud your judgement. There’s usually a buffet or appetizers at each of the parties so indulge.

Make sure to drink plenty of water between drinks. Once again, pretty obvious stuff. But don’t forget.

Finally, pace yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and be shit faced by 10:45. The party still has hours to go and is just getting started. Don’t be the dumbass that misses the whole thing because you’ve already slammed 7 drinks before the real party has even started.

Playboy Mansion Tip #2. Don’t Arrive With Jimmy Dean And His 8 Buddies In A Sausage Truck.

If at all possible, roll with some chicks to the party. It’s very helpful, and way more inviting to other women if there’s some female presence with your group. If you do arrive with a bus full of testosterone, do yourself a favor and break away from the pack at times. Go mingle with other people.

The girls are exceptionally friendly, talkative and there to have a good time. Don’t intimidate them by hanging with your 12 boys that are just dreaming and salivating at the idea of splitting some playmates thighs later on. Chances are, it won’t happen in this scenario.

Playboy Mansion Tip #3. Leave Your Jealous Spouse At Home

If your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband is overly jealous at the site of seeing you dance the night away with nearly naked party goers, go go dancers, and bombshell playmates, then do yourself a huge favor and don’t bring them. If you really think it may be a issue, you may want to reconsider even coming to the Playboy Mansion at all, unless you’re looking for a easy way to break up.

These parties split couples apart every day. If you don’t have a strong foundation in your relationship, you’re playing with fire. Be warned. And even when you think your wife or girlfriend is okay with the festivities, there’s a really good shot she’s fuming with rage and insecurities inside.

However, if you do decide to bring your spouse or loved one, make sure you spend enough time with them and give them the attention they deserve. Just because there’s a pair of naked double D’s sitting right in front of your face doesn’t mean you can motorboat them with your face and tell your lady you couldn’t hear her because your ears were full of breasts. I’ve seen many married couples having a blast at the mansion, and that’s the way it should be. (I also was subjected to one of my famous marketing buddies fat ass in the grotto. That wasn’t the most fun ever.)

Playboy Mansion Tip #4. Screw The After Party

Around 1:30 AM you’ll start to hear everyone talking about the “After Party”. My advice is, don’t worry too much about it unless you’ve got some serious intel.

DJ Paul Oakenfold at Kandyland

There’s usually at least two different after parties. The one that they tell everyone about to get them out of the mansion, and the private one that you’re probably not going to unless you are very well connected, or have half a dozen hotties with you. A pack of 5 dudes is usually NOT getting into the good after party, but rather rerouted to a place where they’ll reconvene with the drunken testosterone crew looking for sexy leftovers. Sorry chumps.

The truth is, it’s very doubtful another party is going to be able to match the shin dig you’re already at. You’re at the fucking Playboy Mansion. Enjoy it.

After spending time waiting in line to get on a shuttle or in a limo, then transporting to a new location, you’ve wasted almost an hour. An hour that could of been well spent just staying put at the epic party.

Playboy Mansion Tip #5. Don’t Forget To Take Picures

Most of the parties allow you to bring in personal cameras to shoot pictures. At first you’d think it would be sort of pervy to do so, but it’s actually just the opposite. My experience has been that the majority of girls love to pose for the cameras. They are so proud of their costumes or outfits and want to show them off.

Poor Girl Lost Her Candy Nipple

Many of the models and playmates are there for that purpose.

Remember that time flies when you are at the Playboy Mansion. 5 hours can seem like 45 minutes when it’s all done and over and there’s a very good chance that you forgot to even snap a photo while there.

Just don’t be that weird guy snapping pics of girls all night and not even talking to them. Get out and mingle, smile and dance your ass off. You’ll have more organic photo ops than you’ll ever imagine.

One last thing about taking pictures is you may want to experiment with your camera a bit to find out how to take the best pics at night. There isn’t a bunch of light, and sometimes it’s tough to get good pics with a simple digital camera or using your phone’s picture application.

Playboy Mansion Tip #6. Don’t Get Kicked Out

So you want to smoke some weed, or do some other illegal activity hey? Be careful. While the security guards are not there to try and bust you for such things, they do have to perform their job. If you are caught smoking herb or doing lines of blow off some girls ass, you’ll likely be tossed on a shuttle and asked to leave.

If you want a bit of privacy, I suggest you head to the tennis courts across the driveway in the front of the house. Just follow the stone path to the darkness and you should be relatively good.

And if one of your good friends offers to give you Molly (pure MDMA) my suggestion is to flip a coin. I chose tails. Guess which one it landed on?

Playboy Mansion Tip #7. Get A Cabana

If you can afford it, it’s really nice to have a private cabana. Depending upon the party it will likely cost about $5000 to $10,000 for such a thing. You’ll get your own private girl to pour drinks and assist you with anything you’ll need.

Hugh Hefner Lounging In His Cabana

Plus you’ll have a space for ladies to put their purses and belongings. And you may want a spot to just chill out for a moment.

While the fee for a private cabana is not cheap, it’s a good option if you are rolling with a bunch of dudes. Each guy can pitch in, and mitigate the cost quite a bit.

Finally, just because you do have the cabana doesn’t mean you should hang out there all night. Get out and check out the whole place. There is so much to see, and so many people to meet. Confining yourself to one spot is just silly in my opinion.

So, there you go. 7 quick tips to maximize your playboy mansion experience. I hope they are helpful, and if you’re headed to the mansion any time soon, shoot me a invite!

Cheers,

Jason

PS: I also wouldn’t swim in the grotto hot tub. But I don’t public hot tubs anywhere. The pool’s not so bad though.

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After seeing a quote from Joe Polish on Twitter, I decided to add a exercise into my presentation at Frank Kern’s Mass Control seminar in which we encouraged people to get out of their comfort zones and try something new. Enjoy.

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This is such a beautiful piece of work. Here is Wayne Dyer’s “The Power Of Intention”

Enjoy.

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I was sitting back thinking what my favorite things were for 2010 and decided to list them. So here they are. What’s your faves from 2010? Let us know in the comments below…

Favorite Movie In 2010 = Inception
Runner Up = The Social Network

Favorite Band In 2010 = Zac Brown Band
Runner Up = The Roots

Favorite City I Traveled To 2010 = Austin Texas
Runner Up = New Orleans Louisiana

Favorite TV Series in 2010 = It’s Always Sunny In Philadelphia
Runner Up = The League

Favorite Website In 2010 = Surfline.com
Runner Up = Facebook.com

Favorite Comedian In 2010 = Kyle Cease
Runner Up = Chelsea Handler

Favorite Blogger In 2010 = Tynan Smith
Runner Up = John Carlton

Favorite YouTube Channel In 2010 = GoPotatoTV
Runner Up = KyleCease

Favorite Charitable Organization In 2010 = St. Jude Children’s Hospital
Runner Up = DonorsChoose.org

Favorite Surfboard Shaper In 2010 = Scott Raymond Henry
Runner Up = Shawn Ambrose

Favorite Health Advisor = David Wolfe
Runner Up = Kevin Gianni

Favorite Tweeter = Gary Vaynerchuk
Runner Up = Craig Clemens

Favorite Book In 2010 = The War For Late Night by Bill Carter
Runner Up = The Likeability Factor by Tim Sanders

Favorite iPhone App In 2010 = Google Maps
Runner Up = Scrabble

So those are mine. How about you? What are some of your faves?

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I was chatting with my buddy Matt the other day and he asked if I’d ever taken a Kolbe A Index Assessment? I replied no. The truth is, I’d never even heard of the test before. If you too are unfamiliar, The Kolbe Index is a instinct assessment and it helps you to discover your strengths and weaknesses when it comes to work, motivation and problem solving.

The exact verbiage from the website says…

Kolbe Indexes are fun and easy to complete online in less than 20 minutes. Backed by more than 30 years or research and practical applications, they provide an amazingly accurate map of an individual’s natural instincts, or modus operandi (MO).

I took the test (which costs about $50) online and it was painless and easy. The results were just about what I expected. Nothing really new for me jumped out, but I reckon that is because I’m pretty aware of my strengths and weaknesses through much self evaluation over the years. However, it was reassuring to read the results and find out where I should be devoting most of my time and energy.

My score came out as a 5194. For those of you that have no idea what that means, you can read my assessment in the link below. I kind of enjoy having 2 middle of the road scores with the 5 and 4, but also am embracing the drastic high and low of the 1 and 9 score. To understand what I’m talking about you might need to read my assessment.

One thing I enjoyed about the test was that it doesn’t try to correct you or penalize you for your lack of interest in certain areas of achievement. It simply recognizes where your strengths are and encourages you to excel in those areas of your life while understanding your weaknesses as well. It makes little sense to try and work on your weaknesses all the time when instead you could be playing to your strengths.

Where I see the Kolbe A Index Assessment being incredibly important is with hiring new employees. Sticking a new employee in the wrong spot can be a disaster and a big time money loss if don’t position them wisely. You not only miss out on loss productivity with a mis-hire, but you also lose out on potential growth at the same time. It’s like a double whammy. Hiring the wrong people can set your company back big time, so the Kolbe Index assessment is something I strongly encourage employers to use before delegating a position to a new employee.

If you are interested in checking out my assessment you can do so at the link below…

Click Here To Check Out My Kolbe A Index Assessment

Cheers,

Jason

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This is last call for my book club. We have a couple hundred already signed up, and we’d love for you to join if you’d like to bring an open mind, feedback and encouragement to others in the group. Sharing ideas and learning is what this is all about.

The new book club will officially be starting on December 1st. We will be reading one book per month and the overall theme is in the personal growth arena. I promise you’ll love the first book.

There are no costs to join the group. All you have to do is get access to the book each month and I’ve been strategically picking books that aren’t expensive. Usually $10 or less. So there is no reason anyone can’t join if they really want to.

Please enter your name and email below and you’ll get all the instructions.

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I'm starting an incredible new book club, and I'd like you to join completely FREE! No Strings Attached. 

About two years ago I was in the audience at a marketing seminar watching Frank Kern do a hot seat with one of the attendees. If you aren't familiar with hot seats it's where they take questions on stage from a participant and deconstruct their business for the whole room to see. Hot seats offer incredible marketing insights even if the businesses being used as the example are in a entirely different industry than yours. We can all learn from other people's business success and failures and make it relevant if we pay close enough attention combined with a desire to learn. 

Anyhow, Frank randomly suggested to someone that they should start a book club sort of like Oprah. The suggestion was quite passive and flew over most people's heads. The person on stage didn't seem to really to grasp how valuable the idea was either. So they proceeded to another topic. No significant time was spent on the idea of the book club and they moved on like most ADHD marketers are accustomed to doing. 

However, I've always had one rule that has served me well since I got started in internet marketing and that rule goes a little something like this… "Just do what Frank says to do". It's never failed me before and it's some pretty easy logic to follow in business. 

So instantly I decided to create a book club. I figured it would be a great way to motivate myself to read more books, and to share things that were important in my life and my business. I also thought it was a genius idea because instead of just reading the book myself, I could converse with others and get varied opinions about what we were reading. I always appreciate feedback and different ideas from others so it's seemed like a win win situation. 

The plan was set, I was going to start a book club. And I did. And I even decided to charge money for it. People said… "Who in their right mind would pay to be in your book club?". 

The answer was about 50 people. So not only did I start the book club and get interested parties, I was now going to get paid a little over $2000 a month just to read a book and discuss it with others. Pretty smart hey? Yep, following Frank's ideas almost always pay off. 

After the first month I decided to refund everyone's money though. I gave up probably the easiest money known to man by doing this. My reasoning was a bit weird. Truthfully, I became a bit scared. I had grand ideas of sharing some very intense books but after some lengthy thought, I pulled the plug. The stuff I had planned was too heavy. It may of tested people's religious convictions or political beliefs and I just wasn't ready for it. So I chicken'ed out and returned everyone's money and went surfing and traveling instead.

Recently I've been reading much more since I got an iPad. It's super easy to browser the Amazon store and have books downloaded to your fingertips in seconds. Sort of addicting. Last night I picked up the book "The War For Late Night" and blazed through about 40 pages before watching Conan's debut show on TBS. The book is an interesting inside perspective to how the whole Tonight Show debacle went down with Jay Leno & Conan O'Brien and more. Being a long time Conan fan, I was actually afraid to read the book and find some guy bashing him. So far, that hasn't happened at all.  Whew.

So I've decided to revitalize the book club and I'd be thrilled if you'd join me and the group. However, this time it won't cost you a dime except to purchase the books to read. That's right, it's free to participate and become a member. I'll also make an effort to not include a bunch of books that cost $50.

In fact, the first book can be picked up at Amazon for just $9.32.

All you have to do is enter your name and email in the form below and I'll send you the info on the first book we'll read and you'll get all the other details the moment I have them. Please leave a comment below letting us know you are in and introducing yourself as well. Thanks.

WARNING: Please don't sign up unless you have the full intention of reading the book each month, and offering your opinion and feedback with the group. If you don't participate, we'll delete you from the database. We only want active members who participate and share with other members. Thanks.

 

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