The question always comes up, and no matter what answer we seem to give it never seems to satisfy the inquiry.
If you say you’re a Copywriter their mind thinks of that little circled c logo that stands for copyright on the bottom of the page. If you say Email Marketer they think you’re a Viagra or porn spammer and if you dare say you’re a Search Engine Optimist they’ll just stare at you and wonder what foreign language you just spoke.
In my experience it’s almost better to just say you’re a drug dealer or tell them you sell digital crack because at least they’ll have some understanding of that.
To be serious for a second, this issue is one that comes up all the time. Because the internet marketing industry is so new and because so many people can’t seem to grasp the idea of creating massive wealth so quickly on the internet it boggles their mind that these opportunities are even true or legit. The old saying “If it’s too good to be true…” really has crippled some people’s minds and has created some sad limitations on what is possible, especially on the internet.
Starting a online business can be rough on families and relationships because the fear of the unknown is quite a daunting feeling. So many spouses get upset at their significant other because of continual purchases of products and seminars promising that this will finally be the tool that will help elevate them to financial success. Of course it’s usually just an entry way to being sold more shit that will sit on the shelf and it further pisses off and worries the partner. And rightfully so in many cases.
I’ve found there is really only one way to alleviate these feelings of insecurity and worry and that is to…
SHOW THEM THE MONEY!
If you aren’t bringing in the money from your internet ventures, don’t expect others to keep encouraging you for long. It’s just not going to happen.
And here’s some really shitty news…
When you do start bringing in money don’t expect others to encourage you either. Here’s the sad, sad, sad reality about success…. It sometimes makes other people feel diminished about themselves and they often have a hard time truly being happy for you. Of course this isn’t a blanket statement that applies to everyone, but it’s way more prevalent then you’d ever imagine.
I have life long friends that no longer hang out because they feel I’m some type of elitist asshole who now runs with the Joneses, or that somehow I now think I’m better than them because I have a pocket full of cash. For some stupid reason my success triggers some emotional reaction about their lack of hustle and achievement in the world and makes them feel like shit about themselves.
I can’t imagine ever having anything but joy and encouragement for anyone that is doing good for themselves, but don’t expect that from everyone because it just isn’t going to happen.
And here’s something that utterly boggles my mind as well. Even if you do start showing your loved ones the money and are bringing in fat paychecks, don’t assume that is going to finally make them feel secure and safe about your internet business. Nope.
People are conditioned to work 9 to 5 jobs, punch into time clocks, follow bosses orders, commute to and from work, work all year for 2 weeks paid vacation, stare at the clock waiting for their break and hate their jobs. It’s doesn’t seem real to them that you can work 2 to 3 hours a day and make 5 times the income they make after spending 6 years going to college to prepare for their apparent dream job.
If you had a job as a Fireman, a Postal Worker, a Lawyer, Chiropractor etc, they’d feel safe. Internet Marketer? Not so safe. It doesn’t even matter if you make 5 times the income as the previous mentioned careers. It doesn’t matter that you now have more time to hang out and spend with the family. And it doesn’t matter that you have more opportunity and connections then you’ve ever had in your entire life. It’s all still too foreign for many people to grasp.
My point is, don’t expect others to understand your internet business, your success or your peer group. If you do set these expectations, you may find that you are setting yourself up for a big disappointment.
Best of luck everyone.
PS: I’m so thankful that I’ve never experienced any pessimism or doubts from my immediate family about my online adventures. My parents have always been very supportive of almost everything in my life and especially my internet business. However, I know this is a issue that almost all of us deal with in one way or another at some point, so I figured I’d touch on it.